Talk to Your Child about Sex

If I have a child about to have sex, I would tell him/her:
Okay, my son/daughter, I am pleased that you are grown up to become a man/woman who is ready to have sex. Sex is a normal physiological activity of life. People have a need for sex like eating and sleeping. Humans, animals, and plants have a need for sex because it is the only way for a species to multiply and survive. We feel a physiological natural strong desire for sex because it is the only way for humans to have children and survive as a species.

Human ancestors had a different simple, but tough life same as the Animal Kingdom. Once a boy became a man or strong enough to protect his family, he would pursue a girl he likes and who is old enough to bear children. If she loves him back, they find a cave to call home, have sex, start a family and have children. In some animals, the strongest and fittest male usually have all the females to himself, and the weaker males get nothing. This way ensures the strongest will pass his genes and the new offspring will be fit enough to survive.

In recent past human societies, once a boy became a man, had a job, and secured income, he would ask a girl he liked or ask her father to marry her to start a family and have children. All this usually happened around age 18 or even less.

Now life is different and complex, it is easier on many scales, but it comes with many requirements. To secure an income and have a family it usually takes schooling, college degree, and a profession in most cases. This makes men and women ready for marriage at a considerably very late age compared to their sexual maturity.

Now we face a problem. There is a natural physiological need for sex in spite of the inability to become independent financially and socially to secure a family. What can we do about this? How to fulfill a natural need until we are ready for a family? This usually can be fulfilled by practicing safe sex.

Safe sex is a responsible, clean way to have sex without having unexpected consequences like having a child or bad repercussions like contracting sexually transmitted diseases (STD). After you chose a partner who loves you back, you can have safe sex.

There are several contraception methods like the hormone pills, for example. You can control the timing of pregnancy and be having children until you have a stable life ready for raising bodily and emotionally healthy children.

The best way to avoid sexually transmitted diseases is actually to avoid having unprotected sex with multiple unknown sex partners. Also, it is essential to make a good choice of your girlfriend/boyfriend and use a barrier like a condom until it is sure that your girlfriend/boyfriend is healthy if she/he had other sex partners before you.
*** Now, I will bring some videos, documentary, and book about how to have safe sex. Probably bring my child some contraceptive pill (for a woman) and a condom to teach his/her how to use it. ***



Sex is like food. It is a physiological need to survive, and it can be enjoyed very much too. However, when eating is done wrong it leads to obesity, diseases, even unpleasant things like food poisoning also. Sex is not a game or a competition, you should never be rushed or forced into it, and you should never rush or coerce someone into sex. Sex is a love connection and emotion that gives pleasure. This is why it is essential to be very comfortable and feel safe with the person you have sex with.