Fetish and Toys

Fetishism is a fixation on a non-sexual object or acts to achieve sexual stimulation or satisfaction. It can be related to several factors. Like Obsessive-compulsiveness, Fetishism may be mainly psychological and related to early experiences of sexual desires. For example, in obsessive-compulsive disorder, a person may wash his hands 100s of times to achieve satisfaction about clean hands or turn the light switch on and off a certain number of times to feel safe. Foot fetish, for example, could be an ongoing fixation on feet after seeing feet while discovering new sexual desires. A Fascination with women underwear can develop as they are firmly in contact with women genitalia. Early sexual experiences may actively shape the sexual behavior and preference of a person for the rest of his or her life.

Men’s fascination with breasts can be a physiological phenomenon as large breasts mean well-fed babies and a higher chance of survival of the offspring. However, excessive fascination with breasts could be related to prolonged attachment to breasts and breastfeeding as a toddler hence the feeling of security. Or it could be because of a lack of enough breastfeeding and a continuous need for the safety of the mother’s (female) breasts.

BDSM includes bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S). Submissive enjoys the thrill of powerlessness, being trained, lectured, and/or controlled movement. There are many types of toys used for spanking. Each toy is made of a different material such as leather, latex, rode, metal, and etc. Each different material and texture gave a different feel and the sound to whipping.

Other new information that I have learned is the person who has the most power in a BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sado-Masochism) relationship is the submissive. I thought the dominant orders the submissive whatever he or she likes and the submissive has to do it even if he or she doesn't want to or doesn’t like it. However, on the contrary, the dominant only orders what the submissive agreed upon. There might be a punished if the submissive doesn't obey. The punishment could be in the form of agreed-upon spanking using hand or other things. There is usually a code word to stop when the submissive can’t take it. On the other side, in playing the role of a slave, the slave would do what the master orders even if it is unliked. There could be some form of humiliation as well.

There is a variety of different toys for different pleasures. The most common known toys are the vibrators. However, to the contrary, the preferred vibrator was the egg, not the dildo, because the egg can be used to stimulate the clitoris, the vagina, or be put in the panties and operated with the remote control. There are also toys to be inserted in the anus to enhance the feeling of orgasm in women or massage the prostate and enhance the sense of ejaculation in men. Some of the most popular are lubricants. There are many kinds of lubricants, but the safest is the water-based ones. Some oils cause stimulation by releasing a tingling sensation, but they are not highly recommended for fear of possible skin irritation or allergic reactions.